How to not fight and live in peace

You do not need to learn how to love yourself, you probably will not win a million dollars in the lottery, and we are not offering courses on how to solve every problem in your life. You also do not need to start loving everyone who has ever hurt, offended or disappointed you. You will not become enlightened, and you will not turn into an expert on human behavior.

What you can do is learn to understand why a certain person acted the way they did in a particular situation. And not stay angry. To laugh, forgive and move on.

Everything becomes much simpler when you realize that people are simply who they are, and they do not behave the way they do because they want to hurt you, but because to them it feels right. And unfortunately, people do not change all that much. Of course, a lot depends on environment, childhood, upbringing and a million other circumstances that shape who we become.

But in stressful situations, all Red personalities will behave in similar ways, Yellow personalities will respond like Yellow personalities, and so on.
What feels deeply insulting to one color may create no emotion at all in another. Some personality colors always look forward and search for the best solution today, while others approach every new challenge by examining their entire past, their mistakes and their victories. And still others simply ask a friend to solve their problems or wait for the right moon, because then everything somehow works itself out.

How can you avoid fighting with people of different personality colors?

Red personalities truly do not care what you think about them, and their opposite in this area is the Violet personality. For Violet personalities, other people’s opinions are not just important, they can spend enormous amounts of time thinking about others, and usually not in a positive way. Much more often, Violets remember what someone did wrong, what hurtful thing they said, even if all they did was look at them the wrong way once. Red personalities forget about you the moment you leave their line of sight.

People usually feel good in the company of Yellow personalities. They are fun, social and easy to be around, but if you ask them a week later what you talked about last time, there is a very good chance Yellow personalities will not remember. It is not that they do not care about other people, but Yellows have so much going on in their own lives that for them it is enough to seem nice, and if someone needs help, they can always ask.
What will make a Yellow person the angriest is indifference.

Orange personalities will always tell you exactly how you are behaving incorrectly in a given situation, and they will have plenty of advice on how to get your life together. Unfortunately, when even the smallest setback happens in their own lives, they are often the ones who feel the most lost. They try to hide their problems from others, unless they are completely out of strength. But even then, even if you help an Orange person rise from the ashes, never remind them of it. That will truly make them angry. They believe they handle everything on their own, even when the reality says otherwise.

Green personalities strongly dislike people who have no opinion of their own, and even though they are usually introverts, working remotely often quickly becomes boring for Greens, because they enjoy being around like-minded people. Green personalities get annoyed if they share something new and interesting with you and you respond by saying you already knew that. In moments like this, it is better to stay quiet and try to look genuinely surprised. And in general, arguments with Greens lead nowhere, so if you do not want conflict, keep your own opinion, but do your best to admit that the Green person’s opinion may be the more correct one.

Blue personalities react strongly to liars, so if you do not want to fight with them, do not lie, or at the very least make sure you do not get caught. And always remember what you told them last time, because if on Monday you say you spent the weekend at a friend’s country house, and on Tuesday you say you had the perfect weekend at home with a book in your hand, Blue personalities may cross you off their friends list for a very long time.

Cherry personalities often seem calm for a very long time. They rarely argue, do not raise their voice and usually try to understand why you acted the way you did. But that does not mean they forget everything. Cherry personalities remember almost everything, who said what, who promised what and what never got done.

They strongly dislike people who constantly change their minds, behave inconsistently or say one thing and do something completely different. If you do not want conflict with a Cherry person, do not promise what you do not intend to keep. And under no circumstances should you try to prove that they “reacted too sensitively.” A Cherry person will not say anything to you. They will simply decide, very calmly, that speaking to you is no longer worth it.

Moss personalities get along with everyone for a very long time. They understand everyone, excuse everyone and are usually the people who text first after an argument, call first or say, “Okay, let’s not fight.” That is why it often seems impossible to fall out with a Moss person.

It is possible. It just takes a lot of time and a great deal of selfishness. If you constantly talk only about yourself, keep taking from them and never give anything back, the Moss person will one day become exhausted. The worst part is that you probably will not even notice when it happens. Because Moss personalities do not argue. They simply stop trying.

Pink personalities want very much to be good, beautiful, smart and needed. That is why they react very sensitively to criticism, especially when it is harsh, public or unfair. If you do not want to fight with a Pink person, do not joke about their weaknesses and do not tell them they are “being dramatic again.”

Pink personalities can forgive many things, but they never forget people who constantly make them feel inadequate. If you keep repeating that someone else is prettier, smarter or more successful, the Pink person will keep trying to please you for a long time. And then one day they will simply decide that there are people in this world who treat them with more kindness.

Azure personalities usually seem very calm and quiet. They do not argue over small things, do not rush to prove they are right and in general strongly dislike conflict. That is why many people assume that an Azure person is very hard to offend.

In reality, Azure personalities get hurt more often than it seems. They just do not talk about it. If you do not want conflict with an Azure person, do not interrupt them, do not laugh at their feelings and do not tell them they take everything too seriously. Azure personalities get tired very quickly of people around whom they cannot be themselves.

If you constantly talk only about yourself, do not listen and behave as if their problems do not matter, an Azure person will one day stop telling you anything personal at all. And by then, everything is practically over.

Now do you see how easy it can be to avoid conflict with loved ones, friends or coworkers? You simply need to recognize what personality colors the people around you are.